When planning a wedding, couples often only focus on the details of the wedding party or ceremony. In fact, what is more important happens after the party ends, namely when you and your partner start building your married life. Make sure you don’t miss the following preparations in your wedding planning.

1. Prepare Your Mental Condition
   During the introduction period, you and your partner may feel that you understand each other well enough and understand each other’s emotional needs. However, when you get married and live together, you will find differences of opinion that can lead to conflict. Did you know that disputes are the main cause of divorce cases in Indonesia throughout 2021? The results of the Databoks survey show that there were 279,205 divorce cases that were motivated by feuds or conflicts.

Preparing your mental condition before deciding to get married is important so that you can establish good and healthy communication so that disputes with your partner can be avoided.

The first and most important thing is to start by getting to know yourself. Understand your mental condition, what your weaknesses and shortcomings are, and how you respond when faced with conflict. Researchers have found that understanding yourself can help someone better understand and sympathize with what others feel. In the context of marriage, this can help you better understand your partner’s personality. Understanding each other can prevent you from prolonged conflict.

In addition to understanding yourself, you can also prepare your mental condition by taking pre-marital preparation classes or reading books related to marriage. Research states that pre-marital education can effectively reduce the divorce rate among young couples. Make sure you and your partner take the time to learn together, so that the marriage you will undergo can bring happiness to both parties.

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2. Talk About Expectations
   Discuss with your partner about expectations before getting married. Both parties must be open about what is expected after marriage. For example, regarding the division of roles and responsibilities in the household. Who will be the main breadwinner? Who takes care of the household’s domestic affairs. This sounds simple, but if not discussed it will trigger conflict because what is experienced after marriage does not match expectations.

In addition to the division of roles, expectations regarding children must also be discussed. Do you and your partner expect to have children in the first year of marriage or postpone it for a few years? Or maybe you are considering a childfree marriage? All of this must be discussed honestly and openly.

Discussing expectations openly can create a healthy communication style with your partner. According to Betterhealth, good communication is the key to creating a long-lasting relationship. Therefore, if you want a long-lasting marriage, always invite your partner to discuss and talk about each other’s desires. That way, you can adjust to each other’s expectations and desires.

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3. Plan Finances to Make Your Dream Marriage Come True
   In addition to a healthy mental condition and openness, the financial aspect is a mandatory thing that must be considered. The results of a survey released by Statista in 2021 showed that financial problems are the second highest cause of divorce in Indonesia.